Wow

At the moment I seem to be obsessing over technology and the effect it has on our lives. But when its the only way I keep in contact with some of the most important people in my life its pretty important.

The thing right now which has regularly made me want to throw my laptop and blackberry out my window is arguments.
Technological causes:
Even after centuries of love letters, poems, epic novels and emotive passages the spoken word is still better than what is written or typed. Behind a keypad you have no real connection with that other person, you could tell someone you hate them and they could believe it. But only you see the tears rolling down your face. Or you could tell someone you're totally fine but they can't see how you really just want them to rescue you.


In the past week I have had countless arguments caused by bbm and one comment either being typed wrong or because it isn't spoken it is read with the wrong emphasis. The word I genuinely hate in bbm/facebook/messenger conversations is "wow".
I am guilty of using this but it is awful. After any statement or question it could potentially mean absolute dread and that you have just lost everything OR it could actually mean that's amazing.
E.G.

"I love you."
"Wow."

This "wow" could be of sarcasm, admiration, love or just plain shock. Who the hell knows.
The worst wows can sometimes be brought on by the question asker. For example asking a question just to be reassured of an answer you may already know can be lost with a "wow". And you are suddenly accused of mistrust.

"We're still mates right?"
"Wow."

Ensues an argument where you're friend suddenly thinks they have done something wrong and you're left just desperately trying to assure them that they're amazing.


Also typing stuff gives you more of a barrier to reality and you're more likely to say harsh stuff. Things you know will rock the other person to the core. I have had things said to me, and I know I have used it. For that I am truly sorry because it is totally ghastly. I know that everytime I have done this I have regretted it the second after it has come out of my mouth. Or thumbs as the case may be.

To the person who this is truly aimed at. I am sorry. Everything is so hard at the moment and neither of us really know how to act. Just know it will always be you.

xx
(this was rushed as I need to get to uni but I needed to get it down and out there. will edit later.)